The Dark Mood Is Becoming Apparent Again | August 24 – 2006

[Email From School | August 24, 2006]

Jared didn’t have a good day in my class today. He actually got confused and came here first and I had to send him back to math, so maybe that set him off on the wrong foot.

If you can have him study the spelling words tonight, that would be helpful. In case he doesn’t have them, they are: homesick, evergreen, well-wisher, picnic basket, homemade, long-term, underground, handkerchief, large-scale, gingerbread, furthermore, heart attack, stagecoach, good-natured, headquarters, loudspeaker.


[Email From Me To School | August 24, 2006]

OK. TY for letting me know. I’ll have him study those tonight.

Was he shut down?


[Email From School To Me | August 24, 2006]

Some what shut down, some what smarty pants


[Email From Me To School | August 24, 2006]

Gah. OK.


[Email From Me To School | August 28, 2006]

Good morning. Thanks for coordinating. We’ll get him working on his math here at home.

I talked to him this weekend about his math class. He says he’s uncomfortable there but can’t tell me why. I explained to him, even if he doesn’t like math. He needs to work hard at it anyways.

Please ignore the funky punctuation. I, like the science teacher, have a broken an arm part. Mainly the wrist. I am unable to type so am using a voice-recognition program.

It occasionally drives me nutty, because of the way it punctuates. I have to say, these programs are a lot better than they used be even two years ago.

Jared talks about the science teacher and her arm a lot. He has also been asking about the Big Bang theory. So if that’s what they are talking about in class, he’s listening and interested.

He also likes his music teacher a lot. Jared came home Friday, singing, Louie Louie. Jared planner is a little confusing. I’m not sure what his homework is.

He says that it is class work. They write down. And he does it in class. So, I thought only homework was written in their. Could you clarify?

Thanks and have a good Monday,

Genevieve


[Email From School To Me | August 28, 2006]

Each teacher does the planner differently.

I have them write down everything significant (like picture day) and the homework on Monday.

He was not happy with me about it today, but he got the minimum done. Are you coming to back to school night Thursday at 6:45. It is helpful


[Email From School To Me | August 28, 2006]

I checked with the and science and teacher. neither have any complaints!


[Email From Me To School | Reward System Thoughts | August 29, 2006]

Good morning,

I just want to let you know that I’m working with Jared on a reward
system. This week if he does well in math and his other classes, for the
rest of the week, he’ll be able to choose a new anime book from the comic store.

This goes for every week actually.

Thank you for the alert yesterday about Jared. I talked with him
about it and he just said he felt depressed and didn’t know why. He called but I missed it and didn’t leave a message.

He did say, after a little while he felt a little bit better.


Thanks,
Genevieve


[Email From School To Me| Reward System Thoughts | August 29, 2006]

Sounds like a good plan. How are you going to monitor the good
week?

You Can use the Grade Check (scholarship reports) on Mondays. By the way, I sent a half sheet white paper home yesterday with his grade and number of missing assignments (I don’t think that he had any).

Did you get it?

I am sending home corrected papers today. Also, he should have brought home his spelling words for this week. For the next couple of days we are doing the pre-GLE (grade level exams) in my class and the math class. After that we are going to finish the story we are working on, do one more story, then go into the horrible world of grammar!

M


[Email From Me To School | Reward System Thoughts | August 29, 2006]


I was just thinking about that while dropping off Jared at school this
morning. I think the grade check is a great idea. I didn’t see the sheet but will ask him about it tonight. Also, his spelling words
too.

I’m getting used to the school routine still — I’ll add to my calendar, these weekly items I don’t forget. How cool you guys are
writing. aah the world of grammar… I have yet to learn that myself.
> 🙂


[Email From School To Me | Reward System Thoughts | August 29, 2006]

Jared isn’t in my class now????


[Email From Me To School | Reward System Thoughts | August 29, 2006]

where is he at?


[Email From School To Me | Reward System Thoughts | August 29, 2006]

I was told he was at the nurses office – but the phone goes to voice mail – grrrr.


Found him – he’s with the counselor


[Email From School Teacher To Me | Jared’s Math Teacher | September 1, 2006]

Mrs. Hinson, my name is C.P. and I am Jared’s math teacher.

Mary sent me your email so I may share with you Jared’s math
experiences. While in class, Jared will open his math book if I
repeatedly as him to. He will take out paper and then sit with his head
down on the desk.

I have a paraprofessional during first period and we both ask Jared to start his assignment, does he need help, would he like to sit somewhere else, etc.

He will not do any work. I go over to him and tell him what page and what problems to work on and ask if he needs any help (it’s also written on the board). His response is to make a mad face.

When Mrs. H, who shares the room with us and is also
a Resource teacher, asked him to the back table to work, he wrote three problems down but when she left his side to continue her own work, Jared immediately stopped working. He has not turned in one paper during thetime he has been in my classroom.

Also of concern, when I stopped by his desk to ask him to start his math, he raised his arm from the elbow and began repeatedly clawing with his nails along his arm from his wrist down to his elbow.

His skin was welted and fiery red from his fingernail claw marks. He continued this until he started gouging his wrist with his thumbnail using slashing motions.

Today, Mrs. H saw him gouging his wrist again, and asked him to stop. The motions I am describing, are violent. Today when I asked him to start his work,he snapped his pencil in half. He spends most of his time making the mad grimace, putting his head down on the desk, or asking to go to the nurse. I allow him to go to the nurse and I also emailed her about his acts of hurting himself in front of the other students.

Please let me know your thoughts and how we can work towards Jared’s successful school experience.

Thank you,

CP


[Email From Me To School People | Jared’s Math Teacher | September 1, 2006]

Wow.

If it’s okay, I’d like to forward this email to his Doc. He sees him
next week on Wednesday.

I’m really concerned and worried (and scared he’ll hurt himself worse).

I’ll talk to Jared again about math. But to be real honest, this is
the type of behavior (not the gouging, but the not doing work) he
experienced last year here and at his other school.

Sixth grade he did okay, fourth and fifth were the same issues. I’ll do my best to help and work with a reward/punishment system here and talk to him — but I don’t know if any of it will have an impact. Some days I think banging my head against the wall does more.

I’ll do my best to help support his math teacher and Jared at home.

I’ll make sure to let Dr. S know. Hopefully he can help — because, and I don’t want to sound negative, but I feel like we’re edging back to where we were even with the Paxil in his school situation.

Friends wise, he is doing better. Attitude at home, he is doing better. Resistance in the morning to go to school is coming back though. We’ve had some tardy days already.

Thanks for letting me know — and any suggestions on how to help at
home would be great!

~g


[Email To School People From Me | September 4, 2006]

Just a heads up, Jared is having a very hard time with Steve Irwin’s
death. He’s taking it like the loss of a friend he knew and was in
close contact with. It was his dream to go to Australia and visit his
zoo.

He’s been a huge fan of the croc hunter since he was very little and
we’ve even had some Aussie friends send him vegimite – which he ate up on toast — cos it was Aussie. When he was smaller he’d tell folks
Steve was his uncle.

Anyhow, thought I’d let you know – he’s been crying here all day. I’m
sure he’ll be down about this for awhile and really sensitive to any
comments or jokes made about Steve.

~g


[Email To Me From School People | September 4, 2006]

Thanks for the heads up – what a shocker! I am his age and swan with stingrays this past summer in Hawaii — too close for comfort!

I’ll pass your message on to the counselor, in case Jared ends up in the office.

M


[Email To School People From Me | September 4, 2006]

Thanks – ya he was a young guy. Wow I never realized how dangerous
they could be.

Also to add – he’s refused to eat meat tonight (because Steve loved
animals) and is wearing two bandaids over his heart in an X.

He’s still red-eyed. This may take awhile.


[Email To School People From Me | September 5, 2006]

I’m having issues with Jared getting up and getting dressed and
getting to school.

I’m starting at 6.30 a.m. now trying to get him moving. He’s passively resisting (and he’s too big for me to get him up and dress him, nor do I want to!) more each day.

Today is an harder day for him to being with (and note his dark
clothes) I know. But I just wanted to let you know his tardies weren’t
because of my lack of trying.

Just know mornings are getting really hard (again). If he didn’t have some very good friends at school, I don’t know I’d get him out of the bed at all some days. I will be bringing this up tomorrow with Dr. Shyrer (along with the gouging).

~g


[Email To Me From The School People | September 5, 2006]

My email is down in my room – I am picking this up from a different machine. When I get back on line in my room, I’ll forward this to the county. At a previous school, the principal and I had to go to a home and drag the kid out of bed, make him dress, and drive him to school!

But!! he was half the size of your son. I suggest that you start a reward system for getting up. Is there a breakfast food or treat you get for him if he is o time?


[Email To School People From Me | September 5, 2006]

Thanks. Good golly! (At least I’m not the only one with the issue —
hopefully we don’t have to go that far).

I’ll work with a breakfast treat type food (I don’t normally buy
sugar-crack cereal for the house, so that might be a good incentive
for coco roos or something).

I’ve also noted, Jareds been staying in his room for much longer
periods again. He’s interacting less with the family and his dark mood
becoming more apparent again.

~g


Wed, Sep 6, 2006, 3:27 PM | Email From Teacher To Me

I had emailed this to you on August 29th.  It was returned undeliverable because I made an error in your e-mail address.  Sorry about the delay in notifying you.  Here are my concerns. 


Mrs. Hinson, my name is C. P. and I am Jared’s math teacher. 

Mary sent me your email so I may share with you Jared’s math experiences. 

While in class, Jared will open his math book if I repeatedly as him to.  He will take out paper and then sit with his head down on the desk.  I have a paraprofessional during first period and we both ask Jared to start his assignment, does he need help, would he like to sit somewhere else, etc.  

He will not do any work. 

I go over to him and tell him what page and what problems to work on and ask if he needs any help (it’s also written on the board). 

His response is to make a mad face.  When Mrs. H, who shares the room with us and is also a Resource teacher, asked him to the back table to work, he wrote three problems down but when she left his side to continue her own work, Jared immediately stopped working. 

He has not turned in one paper during the time he has been in my classroom.  

Also of concern, when I stopped by his desk to ask him to start his math, he raised his arm from the elbow and began repeatedly clawing with his nails along his arm from his wrist down to his elbow. 

His skin was welted and fiery red from his fingernail claw marks.  He continued this until he started gouging his wrist with his thumbnail using slashing motions.  

Today, Mrs. H saw him gouging his wrist again, and asked him to stop.  The motions I am describing, are violent. 

Today when I asked him to start his work, he snapped his pencil in half.  He spends most of his time making the mad grimace, putting his head down on the desk, or asking to go to the nurse.  

I allow him to go to the nurse and I also emailed her about his acts of hurting himself in front of the other students.  

Please let me know your thoughts and how we can work towards Jared’s successful school experience. 

Thank you, C. P.


Sep 6, 2006, 3:29 PM | Email From Teacher To Me 

I am sending my second message that was undeliverable.  C. P.


Hello, I am trying to see if this email address is right.  

The first email I sent you was returned undeliverable.  I am Jared’s RS math teacher.  I need to talk with you about Jared.  He is not being successful in my class.  

Please let me know what I can do. 

Thank You, C. P.


Mrs. Hinson, today Deb S. came to my math class to observe Jared.  He sat at the back table (the first day that he sat at this table).   

Jared puts his head down on the table and will not begin working on daily assignments. 

She spoke to him outside the classroom but when he cam back, he sat down and put his head down on the table.  

Deb is going to have another person (I believe from the county) come to observe him.  

I need your assistance and support in order to help Jared in this class.  So far, he hasn’t turned in any work.   My school # is ***-****. If you would like to come to my 1st period room to observe, I would be more than happy.  

It is what you feel would be the most productive.  

Thank you, C. P.


Thu 9/7/2006 9:09 PM | Email From Teacher To Me

Mrs. Hinson, 

Today Jared participated in math class and I am so glad.

I would  now like to address his homework.  He still has not completed an assignment and  progress reports will come out before you know it.  

Could I email his assignments to you and have you help him finish his daily papers?  Let me know.  

Again, Jared made himself a part of our class, spoke to students, worked on his paper and his positive attitude was appreciated. 

I hope he continues.  I will keep you posted.  

C. P.


Sep 7, 2006, 10:01 PM | From Me To Teacher

Hi Ms. P, 

My apologies for not replying sooner. 

I’ve pretty much worked the last  week straight from sun up til midnight to meet a big work deadline. 

GOOD I’m glad Jared participated — we had a very big heart to heart the other day about school and math.

 I’d love it if you emailed his assignments. It would be really helpful and we’d help him get his homework done here. 

Thank you so much for letting me know how he’s doing. I’ve shared this information with Jared’s doctors. 

If there is anything at all I can be of help with here to support you in class, please let me know. 

Oh, I should mention – Jared won’t be in school tomorrow. We’re going to the courthouse in Merced for the adoption finalization of his little brother. It’s a very big day for us – our ‘forever family’ day. 🙂 

 If he is missing work currently and you’d like to email it, I could have him work on it over the weekend. 

Again thank you so much for your emails, I really appreciate the communication. 

Sincerely,

 Genevieve


Sep 7, 2006, 11:08 PM | Email From Teacher To Me


A quick reply…thank you too.  Get some sleep. I had to laugh because we are both up late checking emails! I will get those assignments to you.  C. P.


Sep 12, 2006, 12:38 PM | Email From Teacher To Me

Mrs. Hinson, here are Jared’s math assignments he needs to finish and turn in.  

He needs Lessons 5, 6, and 7.  He needs to do the Practice problems and the Problem Sets 1-30 in each assignment. 

Today he was great.  At the end of class we talked about food and he mentioned eggnog. 

I LOVE eggnog and we laughed about the consistency being so thick!  It was a good day.  He asked for help with math and was very polite.  

Thank you for your support.  

C. P.


Sep 12, 2006, 1:33 PM | From Me To Teacher

I’ll have him work on these assignments at home and get them turned in. 

Thank you SO much for letting know what what he needs to do. I’m glad *very glad* he had a good day today and was interactive.

 Just to let you know – he wants a dual screen psp really bad – so I told him if he can get all C’s on his report card or higher, we’ll get him one.

I know it doesn’ t sound real high, but he’s had all F’s and I think it’s a goal he might think is easier than all B’s etc. 🙂 Maybe that goal is helping!

I dont know 🙂 but might be useful info if you need to nudge him in class later. 

Thanks again! 

(LOL on eggnog 🙂 )

 ~g 


Sep 13, 2006, 7:34 AM | Email From Me To Teacher

Good morning! 

Jared did lesson 5 and 7 last night. I hope its okay if he does Lesson 6 tonight. 

He did 7 w/o even telling me he was doing his homework (or me asking him to do it, a first!). I let him know he had makeup work too, so he did six. 

He’s in Aspire club until 6 p.m. and he didn’t think to do his homework there (I’m working with him on that next!). 

I don’t know how ‘right’ the answers are, but he did take some time and focus on each assignment. 

~g 


Sep 14, 2006, 8:16 AM | Email From Me To Teacher

Morning 🙂 

OK, Jared corrected me and said he did Lessons 5 and 8. He had promised the day before to finish up his makeup work last night. 

He came home and crashed out – missed dinner and wouldn’t get up. He slept through the night. I don’t know if it was avoidance or what. 

I told him you’ve been MORE than generous enough with letting him have makeup work. That if I was his teacher, I wouldn’t let him have another shot at it. 

I’m still going to make him do the lessons tonight — even if he can’t turn them in for points. 

He wants to go to a guitar concert tonight at church — I told him his ticket in is to get those two lessons done in Aspire before I pick him up. Or he’ll miss the concert and have to stay home and do the work. 

Just wanted to let you know the status. 

Thanks! 

Genevieve 


Sep 15, 2006, 1:06 AM | Email From Teacher To Me

Hi  Jared worked on some problems this morning.  His attitude has continued to be positive. 

I helped him with several problems but sometimes he seems, I don’t know, maybe overwhelmed with the amount of work?  

It’s hard to catch up when you’re behind, I know that.  I hated to hand him that grade yesterday, but for the amount of work he’s turned in, I didn’t have a choice. 

Let me think about what I can do that would not stick out like a sore thumb to the other students. 

I am going to be at a conference Friday (It’s past midnight) but I will mull it over this weekend. 

I am so pleased that his attitude has softened towards me and I want him to keep positive thoughts without being reminded of unfinished homework. 

My goal is to have him caught up with his assignments and to stay on task from now on.  

Thank you, I enjoy your emails. 


Sep 15, 2006, 8:38 AM | Email From Me To Teacher

And I thought I stayed up late at night!

 His attitude at home is improving towards his work too. He finished up two make up chapters and his regular homework last night to turn in today. 

He has mentioned feeling overwhelmed about his work. But he’s continuing to work (except the one night) towards getting caught up.  I didn’t see any grade handed out yesterday – I’ll ask him about it today.  I’m very glad he’s working with you now too :). 

Thank YOU for being in contact with me. I really appreciate it and enjoy your emails as well! Have a great conference today, ~g

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